It doesn't take long at all for a baby to lay
claim to their favorite blanket, a seeming appendage that absolutely
must remain within their sight and reach for the next few years. Since
they are too young, even at five, to explain what it is their baby
blanket provides them, we have to assume it brings an overall feeling
of security - as if all is well within their little world.
Once
children start pre-school, the tendency to have their blankie in tow
begins to subside. By that time, some children will have abandoned
theirs (even though they probably know right where it is at any given
time), except at bedtime. It's interesting to note that they stop
feeling "lost" without the blanket right about the same time they start
school and really get out into the larger picture - a bigger world for
them - where there are many other little people just like them - out on
their own. No baby blanket, no parents.
This is when children
really start to learn about socializing and socially acceptable
conduct. It is also the time they begin to sprout relationships with
other children. Few, and far between, will form a friendship with
another that lasts throughout their lifetime. It does happen though,
and it would seem those two children who become adults would come to
know each other very well, and even more so as the years passed. They
might also form a childhood friendship that doesn't continue because of
moves out of the neighborhood or school district, but is re-kindled at
some later point in time - often by complete happenstance.
Friends
come and go, or they might stay in your life for the duration; and
there are always at least a couple of friends that you wish would stay
with you, but they cannot. Their time has come to make passage to the
next lifetime. When we lose our friends, to say "it is never easy" just
wouldn't do justice to the experience. The loss is often described as
feeling like a part of you has left, which goes to show just how
important friends are in our lives.
So then, couldn't it be said
that our friends are like baby blankets for grownups? They travel
alongside us, down the paths and up the mountains of our trials, joys,
tribulations and accomplishments. So seemingly significant are friends
that, over the last couple of decades, explosively popular television
shows like "Friends", internet sites such as "Facebook.com" &
"Classmates.com", and Broadway hits like the Pulitzer Prize and Tony
award winning "Rent" are likely forever etched into our memory bank.
The
tremendous hit, "Friends", premiered on national television in 1994 and
ran until 2004, when the series finale aired. The final episode was
watched by more than 52 million American viewers, making it the
most-watched series finale in the history of television.
Facebook.com,
with an Alexa rating of "2" (being beaten out of first place by the
internet giant, Google.com), has taken the web by storm. We can locate
friends and relatives, even if we haven't heard from or seen them in
fifty years...or more! Additionally, we are able to engage in "catch
up" and stay informed of each others' lives via cyberspace, and in real
time.
The popularity of Classmates.com is growing and, like
Facebook.com, it produces a linked-chain effect. For every person you
find (or that finds you), there will be another, and then another, who
surfaces. We have the added benefit of not having to be "friends" with
someone if we so choose. But all in all, we participate in these
opportunities to connect with our past and the comfort it provides us -
or that which we perceive it to.
Another barometer of the "Friend
Trend" is the endless receipt of emails about friendship, so much so
that "National Friendship Week" occurs many times a year on the
internet! The email message that accompanies this celebration of
friends over the web can be worded and visually depicted in creatively
different ways, but the essence of the message remains the same....the
sender thinks of you as their friend.
Not long ago, the acronym
"BFF" was born and has since caught on like wildfire. It is especially
in vogue with the younger members of the population....tweens and
teens. Amusingly, though, they are not yet mature enough to understand
the true meaning of either a "best friend" OR "forever". Only time will
tell them which of their friends really will be their "BFF".
Friends
come in all shapes, sizes, ages and walks of life. They can be just
like you in their thinking, or they might be so different than you it's
difficult to understand why you remain friends. It's a fact that your
family, you get; but your friends, you get to choose. Our friends keep
us grounded, tell us what we need to hear, share in our sorrows and
joys -- comforting us just like our baby blanket did - all those years
ago.
My new BFF is my brand new, darling granddaughter, and she
will indeed be my best friend forever. A baby is the quintessential
friend...not yet aware of stuff like judging others, being consumed
with misguided pursuits, having no concept whatsoever of social stature
or financial status, all they know about is love. She has unknowingly
become my very own baby blanket!